Monday, May 2, 2016


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh -  - Chapter One - Personal Development)

Some people will never do anything for themselves and never take responsibility for their consequences.. They will constantly place the responsibility on others;... on anyone who is willing to support them, so they don't have to do anything about it themselves.

They use/have a split second memory, unable to recall the consequences of their actions, how it affected others or their own lives, how much it hurt, or took away from their own lives, or how to keep their own integrity, ..

When someone has filled them up with good advice, they will talk a great game with that support, But will never actually walk it... And when they are on their own or it gets hard they throw in all they have talked about or even worked towards (with their split second memory that wipes everything) so that they can be selfish and do what they Want to do (despite affecting and hurting themselves or others)

They end up Using people and Exhausting everyone around them because they make people constantly support them and prop them up.. (work for them) And Although they may have great intentions, they end up Using good, loving people by not taking responsibility.

They Use their weakness as a manipulation to get sympathy support, love and affection.. (help me) All the things they want but aren't willing to work for or produce inside themselves.. (Like Adult Children, not willing to step up and grow up; and constantly looking for a parent/authority to tell them what to do, do things for them, and revolve themselves around them)

Eventually the Good People stop Helping, because they can't keep filling vessels that keep emptying themselves on a Whim, (no matter how much they want to help) and despite whether these 'Weak Willed' people have good hearts or not, or good intentions, they will end up being around people who just use them back, people who have no respect for them, manipulators, People who don't care, because they can't care for them; Care can't exist around a 'Weak Willed' person because by default when shirking their own responsibility; they become Users themselves and this type of selfishness never takes anyone else's feelings or health into concern and anyone who cares for them will get hurt..
We all have elements of 'Weak Will', ….All of us... And we all have a tendency to wipe our memory of the consequences, thinking that this time we can get away with it, and even the world does this to us, wipes us of our memory of what we should be doing ourselves and instead follow what others are doing... and if you don't keep up your own responsibility, you can become depressed or angry if you don't feel you fit in or have 'something' to show.. etc...

But in the end, it is a choice of Discipline and Strength to not make others Responsible and to take the reins of your own life and steer it to where you want it to go.

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